By: Anna Bashedly
Being an old soul in the modern dating world can be as tricky as finding a good Adam Sandler movie.
We feel like we just don’t fit in with this hook-up culture where Facebook is an attractive people menu and everyone has one eye wandering at the options:
1. We have times where we don’t want to hear problems.
We seek deep meaning in all our relationships, but sometimes we care too much. At times we might not want to hear about the harsh stuff because we’re overly sensitive. People’s suffering affects us a lot so don’t be fooled into thinking we’re surfacey and don’t care; it’s quite the opposite.
2. We need someone to “ground” us.
We have a very romantic view of the world and our relationships, which is great, except when we idealize things too much and become let down by our own expectations. We love when someone can get us out of our heads and make us live in the moment.
3. We have a lot of enigmatic traits.
On one hand we value stability, but on the other hand we also require a lot of freedom in our lives and in our relationships, so it can get a bit tricky. If we feel secure with you but also that you give us freedom, we will really thrive.
4. We can’t have casual encounters.
Try as we might, we will never be able to have a causal encounter with someone who we’re romantically involved with. This can be a bitch because even if we’re not seeking a life-long partnership we will still need our romantic experiences to have a deeper meaning. So yeah, if we get romantically involved with you it means we feel a connection that goes beyond the surface level. What can we do; we want and need real passion.
5. We’re unconventional.
About our life and standards of living. Which means we will never just accept something, we question everything and investigate things for ourselves. Be prepared for a lot of creative thinking.
6. We see the world and our life on a much larger scale.
Because of that, our philosophical views can impact our relationships and the way we interpret the things that happen in our lives.
7. Don’t underestimate our instincts.
If we say we “have a feeling” about something, just go with it. Seriously, just shut up and go with it. Just kidding. But our intuition is really never wrong.
8. Don’t worry about going overboard with impressing us.
Okay, that doesn’t mean not making an effort, it means that It’s the simple things in life we have the most fun with. The easiest way to our heart is just doing things like going on long drives, doing spontaneous, random things and conversations that last long into the night. We value seemingly simplistic gestures that take a lot of effort but not a lot of materialism.
9. Yes, we can be brooding.
But this has nothing to do with being pessimistic. We see the potential for humanity and have a lot of faith and expectations so this can sometimes be the cause of a lot of pain and disappointment.
At times we need some time alone to reflect but sometimes we’ll just need you to get us out of our heads.
10. Communication = Greatest form of intimacy.
Communication is one of the greatest forms of intimacy to us. Old souls are very cerebral people. Hearing about your history, learning about the way you look at life, and how you understand the world around you based on your past experiences, is exactly what helps us to better connect with the person we’re dating. None of your stories are unimportant. We want to hear it all.