Perhaps one of the most natural aspects of human life is our constant need for growth. If we’re not growing, we’re stagnant, and eventually this leads to rumination. Which is why it’s so important to make sure that the people you surround yourself with are going to help you grow in one way or another. Our friends and family members are trying to grow as well, but sometimes we’re simply growing in different directions. When this happens, it’s best to re-evaluate these relationships so we can decide whether or not they’re healthy for us anymore.
Here are five types of “friends” you might want to consider cutting out of your life:
1. The Constant Complainer
This type of friend is someone who almost always carries with them a negative energy. There’s always something wrong or something just not going according to plan, and they need everyone to know about it.
The problem with this friend is that their negative thoughts and attitudes rub off on you and everyone else they’re around. You’ll quickly find yourself unhappy with your world for no reason at all. These people are draining, and will keep you from moving forward.
2. The Naysayer
The naysayer in your life is the person who almost always shoots down any of your ideas or plans. Anytime you suggest something or discuss your goals, they’re quick to tell you all the reasons why it won’t work and why you shouldn’t even waste your time.
Naysayers are afraid of stepping out of their comfort zone because they’re afraid to fail. This is why they can’t understand how others succeed.
3. The Doubter
The doubter can be a worse “friend” than the naysayer. These people like to make you think they’re supportive of your goals and ambitions, but are the first ones to point out any failures or shortcomings.
They’ll often tell you how much they believe in you and want you to succeed, but secretly they’re hoping you crash and burn.
4. The Bragger
Picking out the “braggers” in your life is pretty easy; they’re the ones constantly searching for validation from others. When we have major successes in life or overcome certain obstacles, sharing our excitement with friends and family is expected.
But, when a person is constantly boasting about themselves, it’s a tell-tale sign that they’re insecure or lack self-esteem, and need approval from others to make themselves feel better. You don’t need to be the one who is constantly telling them how great they are.
5. The Flaker
Flakey people aren’t just the ones who bail on plans all the time, they’re also the ones who have really messed up priorities. They have a whole host of bad habits, like interrupting others, taking phone calls at inappropriate times, and sitting on social media 24/7.
When a person is habitually flakey, it makes you care less about the relationship with that person. Especially when you deserve friends who want to share living in the moment with you.