Men are complex creatures who can’t fit their personalities into a tiny box. Men have characteristics that make them decidedly male, but those features are nothing to be ashamed over. Society tends to denounce the idea of masculinity in its truest form, but those behaviors are completely natural. To argue that the actions of a few insensitive or predatory males correlates to the rest of the population isn’t fair. The vast majority of men are completely in control of their masculinity, so they shouldn’t be ashamed of their manly behavior. Six of those behaviors have been outlined below.
1. Male Energy
Men are endowed with a hormone that makes them more aggressive, dominant, and energetic. That hormone is known as testosterone, and men have to deal with it from birth. Testosterone is responsible for a lot of the activities commonly associated with men, like hunting, fishing, sports, and any other source of violence. Men should not be ashamed of doing these things. The activities aren’t aimed solely at men, but men enjoy them because they play on a biological imperative within men.
One of the hallmark effects of testosterone is that it instills a desire to lead. In most cases, men who desire a leadership position do so because they want to help make a difference for the good of mankind. There are others, however, who would use their leadership role for harm rather than good. Those men are potentially dangerous to society, but they are rare and easy to spot.
3. Providing For The Family
Testosterone is a hormone that goes back to the time before civilized society, when men were forced to hunt to survive. That desire has continued on through civilization, and many men cope with that desire by being the sole provider for their family. There is nothing to be ashamed about when it comes to protecting your family’s future.
The driving force behind the average male psyche is an attraction for women. Testosterone not only provides men with the attractiveness that women seek, but it also instills a sense of attraction to those women. Without testosterone prompting such attraction, there would be no motivation to pass knowledge and experience down to the next generation. Men should never feel ashamed about feeling attracted to women, because that is what men are biologically programmed to feel.
5. Direct Attitudes
Men are often quite blunt when speaking, and that is often because of the no-nonsense nature of testosterone and its effects on the body. Testosterone promotes physical activity, which leaves little room for complex or abstract communication techniques.
Men tend to stick to simple conversations that avoid emotional content, which is completely fine. It is a good idea to share emotions and feelings from time to time, but most men do so in a highly controlled setting with someone they trust completely. Being direct in daily life is not only acceptable, but it helps society move at a faster pace.
6. Feminine Behavior
Perhaps the most important thing for men to remember is that they don’t always have to convey a sense of masculinity. Men are often much more ashamed of their perceived ‘feminine’ behavior. This is due to the fact that gender norms are so ingrained in society that it becomes a question of extremes. People forget that existence is a spectrum and the extremes are simply made up by society. Men do not need to fear their feminine behaviors and feelings any more than they need to be ashamed of their masculinity.
Men need to understand that their behaviors are not dictated by anyone but themselves. Society may provide guidelines for standard male and female behavior, but they are not set in stone for everyone to blindly follow. No one should feel ashamed for being who they truly are on the inside.